There are certain conventions that are expected to be observed before a wedding. After all, it is a big occasion, and if you don’t do things the right way then there will be judgements. In this digital age, people record everything, and it is a brave bridal party that lets the occasion pass without ticking all the boxes. When your friend is getting married, planning the actual wedding keeps them busy enough. That leaves you to do some planning of your own.
The bachelorette party has its equivalents in most cultures. What tends to unite these events is that, compared to the bachelor party, they are somewhat tame. At least, that’s the tradition. If you don’t want it to be that way, it doesn’t have to be. However, many people find that if you observe a bachelor party up close for any longer than about five minutes, you’re done. You’ll want to escape society forever.
Equality is certainly something to be cherished. What is worth remembering is that being equal does not mean being identical. In showing that the girls can have as much fun as the guys, it’s not essential to match them. Again, if that’s what you want, you can go for it. But while men are out drinking their body weight in beer and kidnapping pigs, women can have fun in a way which is less likely to end in arrest.
A well thought out bachelorette party is as much a part of the ideal wedding prep as Tacori wedding rings. Just because you’re facing your last night of “freedom”, it doesn’t mean debauchery is required. It’s better if there is something about the evening that marks the change about to take place. The bride will always be one of the gang, but from now on she will be part of a duo to – so pay tribute to what made you a gang.
If, as a group of friends, your “thing” was to hang out and listen to cheesy music, then set the bachelorette party around that. Hire a room, and a DJ with a playlist of guilty pleasures. If you’re known for your beauty and pampering blowouts, hire out a salon and arrange to have the full works. Because it is a bachelorette party, of course you should make sure there’s champagne and finger food whatever you do.
Although a bachelorette party does mark the end of an era in one sense, it’s important to keep a sense of perspective. You, the best friend, will always look out for your bestie. There will be times when she’ll need to vent about her spouse and there you’ll be. There will still be evenings on the town and sleepovers. In this light, the emphasis should be on fun, not mourning the end of that era but celebrating the beginning of another.
It may cross your mind to think about what the bachelor party is doing and talk about outdoing them. Resist that. This is about the bachelorette and her besties and sending her into married life in fine style.